Helllloooooooo.  ughhh my life is occasionally a continuum of anxiety of and or relating to the possibility of my going insane. My greatest fear is social anxiety disorder (social phobia). So here for my future *bf/whatnot.....

how to date a girl with anxiety like me????

- if you're not in this through tsunamis and tornadoes and earthquakes, then just don't.

however, if you're prepared to withstand a natural disaster in order to be let in to the kingdom of complexity that is a girl who suffers from anxiety, proceed on.

so. how to date a girl with anxiety:

remember that normal things aren't easy for her, always, at least. there are mornings when she doesn't know if the amount of coffee she's poured in her cup is too much caffeine and nights where she doesn't know what exact minute to set her alarm to for the next morning. instead of laughing at her, or letting her call herself silly or stupid, tell her it's okay. tell her she can have all of the coffee she wants and that it won't hurt if she sleeps in three minutes tomorrow morning. remind her that the world will continue turning past this moment and this decision, but do so in a way that doesn't come across as degrading. do so in a way that reminds her she's okay.

when she doesn't respond to you for hours, or days, or says she needs space, don't freak out. allow her to have her space. allow her to calm down. be understanding. try to realize that it's hard for her to understand someone actually wants to spend time with her, even when she's sad. wait for her to accept that. wait for her to accept that when she forgets again. and again.

even when she needs space, send a text here and there (I mean once a day, not once every hour *but I'm clingy so idc if you text me once every hour hehe) saying something comforting. she'll appreciate it more than she's able to tell you and nothing will help calm her more. welcome her back with open arms.

arms that are all inclusive, and open for her at any and all moments. let her arms go above yours. hold her firmly, don't shake or sway her so she's strong in her ground, and rub her back. softly. hold her strongly. hold her and tell her it's all okay. remind her the world will keep turning past this moment. hold her and tell her it's all okay.

when she wants something, and actually says something about it, make certain that thing happens. it's almost impossible for her to speak up about what she wants and desires for fear of being rejected or due to fear that her needs are not as important as someone else's. say "of course we can" and mean it. be patient. continually tell her that yes, it's okay if we do that, and no, you don't mind, and yes, you still like her even after she 'makes' you do this.

when she texts you and says "have a good night" or "it's fine" or "don't worry about it" or "it's whatever," go hug her. hold her hand. HOLD HER. and if you can't reach her, respond to her. say that you know it's not fine, and that's fine, and you're going to be okay. remind her that the world keeps turning past this moment.

never let her go to bed angry or upset or without her knowing how you feel about her. she will need reassurance. yes, I know you think that's silly, and that she'll just implicitly know that, but little do you know - she's counting the minutes between every text she receives from you wondering if you're sitting there pondering when's just the right moment to end things.

be patient. be patient. be patient. there are moments when things will take a complete 180 and she will go from being cheery to being unsure of what to do with herself. there will be moments she forgets how to breathe. don't let her belittle this. tell her it's okay. tell her she's okay. tell her she's going to be okay. it's okay. it's okay. it's okay. it's okay to have anxiety and you want to be with her. be patient. remind her of this. remind her of this. remind her of this.

how to date a girl with anxiety: be prepared to withstand a hurricane but be content with the days that only have a light breeze.